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I was *never* a bar person. I thank Golly G because 'most' "bar people" don't have what I would consider a "successful" life story.
Being 20-something and spending every paycheck-leftover in a bar is one thing.
But somebody in their 30s or 40s without a dime to their name because of how much they spend at bars is another thing entirely.
I'm not trying to sound judgey or whatever, I've just seen too many people whose lives were RUINED by bars, *never* "improved" by them.

In the 90's, I was what we called a "Rink Rat".
In Canada, the slang term deals with ice hockey.
I was not into ice hockey.
Our city used the term for teens that spent each and every weekend roller skating at the roller rink - ie, "rink rat".
We skated to songs of every genre, including Cotton Eye Joe.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B_47LppSqSM&list=RDB_47LppSqSM&start_radio=1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=avGfStltLbc&list=RDavGfStltLbc&start_radio=1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvipPYFebWc&list=PLtt5NeCWlv-ZFasKkwYSjch3NGrQE_5T9

The-10-Pen wrote: *

27 Jan 2026, 10:17

I was *never* a bar person. I thank Golly G because 'most' "bar people" don't have what I would consider a "successful" life story.
Being 20-something and spending every paycheck-leftover in a bar is one thing.
But somebody in their 30s or 40s without a dime to their name because of how much they spend at bars is another thing entirely.
I'm not trying to sound judgey or whatever, I've just seen too many people whose lives were RUINED by bars, *never* "improved" by them.

In the 90's, I was what we called a "Rink Rat".
In Canada, the slang term deals with ice hockey.
I was not into ice hockey.
Our city used the term for teens that spent each and every weekend roller skating at the roller rink - ie, "rink rat".
We skated to songs of every genre, including Cotton Eye Joe.

Yeah, I don't know, I've also over the years, when I used to go to clubs, I did see how it destroyed relationships and like you wrote, I think in your 30's and 40's + when money is tight its irresponsible to spend all your money in a bar. I don't miss bars or clubs at all - part of a dark past that I just assume to put behind me. I also used to roller skate when I was a child and it was fun going to the skating rink. Most of the roller skating rinks have closed their doors from lack of interest - and that is too bad. Was fun! A lot of community activities has vanished and people have become isolated (including myself) . I was a good boy in my teens and stayed out of trouble and was always in the house by 9 PM every night to watch TV with my father. I managed to graduate from high school somehow; how ... I lucked out I guess. Of course he has long passed away and my mother also passed away last year. I've processed it and am OK but my family is a mess and I'm not even on speaking terms with most of my extended family. That I guess was the only thing about going to clubs was the acceptance. But I'm in my 50's now and that is for young guys. Right now I prefer peace and quiet. Right now so many families and friendships are/were destroyed by politics and religious differences. I would never go crawling back to them because I did nothing wrong.

I guess that was very off topic and more of a ramble - sorry about that. Thank you for reading.

EDIT: Sorry about all those typos - I think I fixed them.

xperceniol_sal wrote: *

28 Jan 2026, 01:15

...That I guess was the only thing about going to clubs was the acceptance...

Better to accept yourself rather than to seek it out from others because people will always disappoint you and the only one you can rely on is yourself when the going gets rough. I see things differently now that I'll be 54 in a few months.