At the risk of not saying this the "right way" (communication skills), I'll go ahead and give it a try nonetheless...
Sometimes, just sometimes, not all the time, but sometimes I think you both (no offense!) just like to play the "victim card".
All of the NEGATIVITY is just where DOWNWARD SPIRALS begin. The World Sucks, blah blah blah!
FORGIVE ME if I am misreading.
Listen, please, I get it! OCD, ADHD, *ON THE SPECTRUM* [Asperger's / High-Functioning (and I *prefer* the days when they used to call it that, but they no longer do)], *extremely* HYPER, communication skills that *require* the LISTENER to have the proper UNDERSTANDING on how to even LISTEN to me, et cetera. Again, I get it!
Listen, I'm in the same boat! I really am! Everyone on the planet has "something", that's my view! Everyone! To some degree!
I'm in the same boat! But HOW is having OTHERS read the NEGATIVITY supposed to help ANYONE? Serious question! No need to "answer".
You're sitting at a computer, maybe type all of that NEGATIVITY into Notepad or Word. Save or delete after typing, your choice.
You got it "off your shoulder" by typing it! But making others read the NEGATIVITY? That part I really do not understand!
I think of it as a psychologist or counselor, all of the NEGATIVITY that goes into his/her notes IS NOT POSTED FOR PUBLIC CONSUMPTION.
SORRY! I just don't. And I'll say it again, I'm in the same boat. Always makes me think of EEYORE (Winnie-the-Pooh character).
Cool read on mental disorders and POOH CHARACTERS -
https://blog.earkick.com/winnie-the-pooh-mental-illness-and-10-characters-explained/
I call it "steering into the skid".
Take control of the situation *NOT* by telling HR "I am disabled, my coworkers are making me uncomfortable" (paraphrasing).
I went that route once. FMLA through HR, this only made situations with coworkers *WORSE*, not better, so I *no longer* go that route!
Granted, was VERY FUN! Throw "I'm taking an FMLA Day" every time somebody stress-induced anxieties into shaking hands.
They would stand there like a deer in the headlights, "What the heck just happened? So now this isn't getting done until he comes back from FMLA?"
Rather, I don't like the group setting and do not function within it, so I've worked every Saturday for THIRTY-PLUS years.
ONLY person in the entire building! And so FOCUSED that I get done in ONE DAY what my coworkers get done in THREE DAYS.
EVERY boss over the years has "noticed". It has worked well for me. Job titles based on what I can 'do', zero college degree.
Other department boss's, "I can't give that project to him, my team feels he does not respect them and he doesn't attend group meetings."
My boss, "You have to trust me, he is the only one that WILL meet your timeline, he WILL communicate with Excel charts and graphs, it works!"
